I found this on the internet and changed some wording as it was geared to DD relationships, but as short as it is I think it says a lot!
Spankings should never be carried out in front of children or given to children. Domestic Discipline is an agreement between consenting adults only
Discipline spankings when you have family around you can be very difficult but are not impossible with a little care and thought.
It is important to discipline as soon as possible when one of your rules has been broken, a good Dominant has to show consistency or they will look weak and a wife will naturally take advantage of a weak Dominant.
Your First Punishment Spanking
From the moment you start living your alternative Lifestyle, you will start to see and feel the benefits of living a more structured lifestyle with rules, both partners will know what is expected of them and will work together to achieve their relationship goals. But sooner or later the time will come when one or more of the rules have been broken and a punishment spanking has to be given. This is something you should try and mentally prepare yourself for, because from this point forward, your relationship will be different forever that first Spanking will change the way both partners look view each other with one big bag of mixed emotions.
Your relationship will never be the same again after your first discipline spanking.
Dominant As the Dominant you will feel guilty you have just hurt the one you love, seeing him cry the first time after a spanking will be disturbing, never before will you have intentionally made him cry by raising a hand to him, all your life you will have been told you “YOU DO NOT HIT” now here you are spanking him for his own good. Do not be tempted to say you are sorry, as the Dominant you have made the decision to punish him after he broke one of the rules that you both agreed on. If you had not punished him you would have appeared to be weak and that is not what he is looking for, he is looking for a strong Dominant to guide him and help make him a better person. Also, you will have to resist the urge to throw your arms around him saying you will never do this again, tell him you love him and remind him that you did what you had to do because you love him.
You will also feel empowered after your first spanking, there is nothing like the feeling of knowing he loves, trusts, respects you enough to bend over and allow you to pull his pants down then spank him behind because he has broken one of your agreed rules, lots of Dominants also find this very arousing, do not make the mistake of turning the spanking into a love making session. Making love would only confuse both of you, this is a Punishment and not foreplay. Do not look for any excuse to repeat the spanking as soon as you can, a good Dominant is always fair and only punishes when it is necessary and not for the sake of thier own pleasure.
Submissive / Slave What a big change in your life all of a sudden the woman who promised to look after you has just raised her hand to you and physically punished you, you have spent your childhood dreaming of a partner who may love, and take care of you and live happy ever after and now you find yourself crying with a sore bottom. At first you will be shocked, how has this happened to you, why have you let this happen to you, all your childhood you have been taught that men and women are equal and you should never hit another person, what have you allowed this to happen to you, you are not a weak feeble person but a strong man. Remember you are giving her the consent to spank you, if you had not broken the rules that you agreed with her she would not have had to discipline you. It is for your own good, you achieve your own goals.
You will also feel so emotional & tearful, bursting into tears without really knowing why and that feeling of relief when suddenly a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders, life seems calmer, you are more relaxed and focused on what has to be done. Also, you will feel guilt for disappointing your Dominant, you have let him down, forcing her to punish you, you can see the concern and mixed emotions in her face, had you behaved as you should he would not be feeling this way. Lots of men are also aroused by a spanking, that is not just heat in your bottom you feel, do not be ashamed by this, you are not some kind of freak that loves to be beaten for sexual pleasure, what you have just experienced is a very intimate thing between husband and wife, hold on to those feelings for later when you your Dominant is ready to comfort you and make love to you, it will be one of the most intense love making sessions you have ever had.