As a male slave the one thing I love is the overwhelming feel of being submissive to my Goddess and always looking up to her as a follower. Until I got into this lifestyle I never gave on thought to the after effects of having an orgasm. I just knew they felt great and I wanted to experience as many as I could.
As time goes by and relationships grow we all experience change. Change in the ways we do things and or think. One thing that has changed inside of me is curiosity, curiosity of why people think like they do, why do I desire and think the way I do. How different things affect people differently and I have become somewhat obsessed in finding answers.
One thing I was always curious about is the 100% turnaround of how I view things and what I desire after having a orgasm. I think for most people they do not even notice due to be vanilla. But when you have desires to be a certain way or have certain things done to you that are not vanilla it really isn’t hard to notice. Notice I did.
My desire to be at my Goddess’s feet serving and worshipping her each day is so strong within me, the desire to make her happy, give her pleasure and be obedient. I do NOT ever want to lose that, ever. My Goddess is the most amazing, sexy, beautiful woman alive in my eyes. But………….I was losing that desire at times, for days and I hated it. After reading some articles online one day it hit me like a lead balloon and I put 2 and 2 together and figured out the reason why this was happening! ORAGSMS!
This truly is not a myth or just a kink or whatever you want to call it. It is real! To use a ridiculous analogy but say if you have this burning desire inside you for a week to eat pizza and drink beer. You have sex and orgasm. I had no clue that orgasm you just had releases countless chemicals inside your brain that that changes everything. Remember that pizza and beer you have had a burning desire for all week? You no longer want it! In fact you are so against it you are going to go out of your way to prove you don’t want it.
The same thing happens within me when I have an orgasm. My first thought after is ME MAN!!! I simply do NOT want to be submissive. I do NOT want to be obedient. I do NOT want to look up to my goddess or worship her, in fact I find the thought of it ridiculous. How stupid am I to desire these things, I’m better, stronger, smarter than her. I’m a MAN! I’ll show her! These are honestly the things I think and to be honest, I know for sure I act like a total stubborn ass for a few days after until that desire slowly creeps back in that usually takes 2-5 days for those chemicals that were released to wear off. I do NOT like being that way, it just isn’t me! I love my Goddess more than anything in this world and always want to submit and look up to this amazing, sexy, beautiful woman I have been so blessed to be with. So the question that I pondered for a long time was, “how do I keep this feeling 24/7?” The answer unfortunately is only one way, orgasm denial.
I simply just don’t have orgasms anymore and it not only keeps me in my submissive mindset 24/7 but another side effect out of it is that it greatly increased my desire to please my goddess in all ways, domestically and sexually. Now when intimate with her although the physical urge will always be there I just think about her pleasure, I enjoy listening to her have orgasm after orgasm and those strong physical urges for my own release have now been replaced with feelings of pride and happiness because I know the most amazing woman that is laying beside me that has so graciously allowed me to pleasure her is 100% sexually satisfied and happy and that’s all I care about.
Does it suck not having orgasms? Do I want to have them? Do I miss having them? YES, HELL YES, and OMG HELL YES! This is a huge part of me, myself and my pleasure that I have given up for my Goddess. I seriously do NOT think she even understands how big this is. I think she just thinks its some weird kink I have, but it isn’t. Thank god for will power because there isn’t a day that I do not think about masturbating. But I do not because in my mind, it would be deceitful and dishonest and that just isn’t me. Our marriage and the special relationship we have is built on trust and not lies or deceit.
With having a very vivid imaginative mind my dreams while sleeping are very real and I honestly dream of my Goddess every night in some way, but I do know when I wake up every morning I am hard as hell and horny. Mornings are hard for me, all I want to do is find release and shoot my cum out in full force. Some mornings the feeling is so strong I feel like I could hump anything just to get that feeling of relief by cumming. I however do know if I were to beg hard enough or even stoop as low as using a guilt trip she more than likely would give in and allow me to cum. My hope is that for now on before I pleasure her in bed she will always make me lock my cock up in a chastity cage (which takes a lot of the stress off her in not having to say no) and stay strong and always deny me which in my opinion is best for our relationship.
Here is the technical explanation that happens when we orgasm. I highly recommend this reading, it is not only very interesting but also very informative! I had no clue!
Dominate his Brain Chemicals by Controlling his Orgasms
Male orgasm denial has numerous benefits, but do you know the chemical reasoning behind them? Endorphins, hormones, neurotransmitters, and neurochemicals affect how we all think and feel. By controlling your mans orgasms, you can control their brain chemicals and condition them.
What are Endorphins?
Endorphins are a group of hormones that influence emotions and minimize the sensation of pain. They attach to opiate receptors, mostly in the brain. Pain and stress most typically influence endorphins to be released. They operate similarly to codeine and morphine… Scandalous!
Women Can Enjoy Blissful Daily Orgasms – But Men Need To Be Denied
It’s true, Orgasms affect men and women “Differently”.
It is empowering to know that you can relish multiple orgasms on a daily basis while withholding them from your Virile Lover. Knowing there are hormonal reasons behind the science, (making him stronger and healthier), is just icing on the cake!
Endorphins and Other Chemicals That Control The Brain and Motivation
1. Endorphins: Natural painkillers that are extremely more potent than morphine, producing feelings of euphoria.
2. Oxytocin, The Love, Cuddle and Bonding Hormone: Decreases abstract craving, diminishes stress, keeps couples together, provokes passion, devotion, attachment and deep feelings of fondness, strengthens sexual receptivity. Normal/Raised Levels of Oxytocin: Devotion, a feeling of being connected, feeling protective and responsible, health benefits (reduces blood pressure and speeds up wound healing), intense feeling of attachment, increases sexual alertness, less addictions and cravings, positive viewpoint and attentiveness.
Low Levels of Oxytocin: Depression, low sex drive, reduced, indifferent or no feelings of attachment, connection or devotion, poor or no feelings of protection and responsibility for another person, weakened immune system.
3. Dopamine, The “I have to have it” Neurochemical: Normal/Slightly Raised Levels of Dopamine: Generates feelings of happiness, healthy sex drive, joy in completing tasks, motivated, optimistic outlook, positive feelings toward others, rational decisions, yearning to bond with others. Low Levels of Dopamine: Ambitionless, despair, displeasure, idleness, impaired judgement, low sex drive, remorseless of own behavior, social anxiety, unable to feel love.
4. Serotonin (a neurotransmitter): Too Much Serotonin: Anxiety, gastrointestinal disorders, insomnia, sexual malfunction. Not Enough Serotonin: Decrease or increase in appetite, insomnia, isolation, loss of libido, low self confidence, ongoing sadness, over sensitive, sore joints and muscles, stomach pain.
5. Testosterone (a hormone): Low Testosterone: Anger, decreased motivation and self esteem, decreased muscle mass and increased body fat, depression, difficulty with concentration and memory, fatigue, low sex drive, irritability.
6. Prolactin (a hormone): After orgasm, it may make one feel sexually satisfied and repress dopamine. Excess Levels of Prolactin: Depression, diminished interest in bonding with others, lowered testosterone levels, low sex drive, depression, infertility, irritability, lethargy, pessimistic outlook, weight gain…
This is how it works:
Men experience a rush of dopamine during orgasm that puts them in a state of ecstasy. However, in most men, the blissful feeling disappears after 5-10 seconds. Interestingly, the surge of dopamine triggers an almost simultaneous burst of prolactin that causes dopamine levels to plummet. The result is a dopamine level that is much lower than it was before sexual arousal began. In addition, an above normal level of prolactin continues for up to two weeks.
Woman receive a peak in dopamine during orgasm, but (unlike in males) it doesn’t crash drastically; rather, it subsides in a gradual sequence of steps. Prolactin also increases to a level slightly above normal (upon feminine climax) – staying there briefly while dopamine levels gently return to their normal levels. Another recent discovery is that Women’s dopamine levels vary throughout the month based on their menstrual cycle.
You may be wondering what all this means. It means that…
1. Male Orgasms Are Addicting:
Have you wondered if there were any truth to it?
Well, male ejaculations can definitely be addicting due to dopamine, the “I have to have it” neurochemical. When comparing brain scans, Gurt Hoistege, a Dutch Scientist found an astounding resemblance of male orgasm to shooting heroin. After they researched rats, scientists in Mexico City pointed out that repeated ejaculations can very closely imitate the effects of abusing drugs.
2. Men Experience a Post-Orgasm Hangover:
After orgasm, men experience a hormonal hangover similar to an opiate or cocaine withdrawal due to low dopamine and high prolactin. Dopamine levels fall while prolactin levels rise after orgasm and after stopping an opiate or cocaine. It takes two weeks for prolactin levels to normalize after stopping cocaine.
During a post-orgasm “hormonal hangover,” men may look for new highs, such as drinking alcohol – eating sweets – new sex partners – porn – and drugs, to boost their dopamine levels. They may also feel disconnected from their partner, experience depression, or become lethargic.
When dopamine levels are constantly bursting up and plummeting down due to uncontrolled orgasms, it can wreak havoc on relationships. Your relationships could feel like a never-ending roller coaster ride full of highs and lows with no middle ground.
3. Too Many Orgasm Lead Him To Cheat:
In any case, long before our time, humans knew that men cheated on their wives because they were not as appealing after sex! Once again, dopamine is the chemical responsible for men choosing to act in a way we ladies don’t like.
Scientists found that after male rats partake in a frenzy of sexual intercourse, they will lose interest in that female. However, if a new female comes along, the male will have sex with her. They linked the phenomena of mate fatigue to dopamine. When a male rat has intercourse repeatedly with the same female, dopamine levels continue to drop. When a fresh potential mate arrives, a surge of dopamine follows.
So, to keep your men feeling you are the most beautiful woman on earth with a World Class “Sacred” Vagina, you must harness and resolutely control their orgasms!
4. Repeated Orgasms Decrease His Sex Desire:
Male rats also experience a decrease in testosterone receptor for up to seven days within their reward circuit. Hormones, such as testosterone, and neurochemicals dock on the nerve cells, along with receptors. In this instance, fewer receptors equals less reactivity to circulating testosterone. As a result, the reward system releases less dopamine.
The first problem is that low testosterone, or a reduced sensitivity to it, can cause anger and irritation. No woman wants to give a man an orgasm and then receive annoyance in return!
Not only that, you don’t want to “Allow” your man to Ejaculate if the undesirable psychological result is a lowered sex drive. This brings us to the second problem, which is the fact that endorphin and serotonin levels go up in the reward system of the sexually satisfied rats. Endorphins and serotonin are both neurochemicals that can produce happiness, but when they are in this part of the limbic system, they bring things to a stop rather than only generating good feelings. Think of it this way: Antidepressants, such as Zoloft, Prozac and Lexapro, that increase serotonin and narcotics, such as Vicodin, Percocet and Methadone that imitate endorphins, can cause sexual side effects. When neurochemicals diminish the reward circuit for a period of time, complications in your intimate relationship, both physically and emotionally, can and will occur.
If you want your guy to have a low sex drive for several days to a week, allow them to have orgasms whenever they chooses – or encourage them to take an antidepressant or opiate! If you just thought or yelled, hell no, then we’re on the same page.
5. Uncontrolled Orgasms Make Him Fall Out of Love:
Due to a dopamine drop and prolactin burst after orgasm, “eventually a man can develop feelings of indifference or slight repulsion for his sexual partner,” according to Taoist Secrets of Love by, Mantak Chia.
Oxytocin is the chemical that keeps love alive, and Ladies can magically increase this baseline oxytocin level in their lives by cuddling, hugging, holding hands, massaging as well as sexually “Edging” their males…
The Cure is Simple
The cure for the chemical chaos that uncontrolled orgasms produce in males is simple: The Cure is Orgasm Denial…